Some people think we are a "free for all"...and the truth is sometimes we are...other times we have a good schedule we stick to. That is just how it works for us...we have a flexible schedule. You see we don't want our kids to flip out and not handle it when things change a bit...yet we also know that having a routine is very important. We have a bedtime around 8:00 for both the kids...however if we feel like eating ice-cream and popcorn for dinner in front of a movie until 10:00 it is okay. Everyone, even kids, need to "shake things up a bit" and enjoy life. I want my children to know limits yet to know how to have a great time. 
Sometimes Parenting is tough...it is far from a piece of cake. Just as I thing we have something figured out...everything changes again! For now we are dealing with the simple things like a sassy comment or biting...as difficult as some days might be I know these are our easy days...things will only get harder as they get older! Parenting doesn't mean you get to call grandma when things get tough or the kids get sick...you work your way through it. I want my children to always know they are my number one...nothing is more important than they are. When they need an extra hug or a story read I want them to know I will always be there. My children are my responsibility...I am in charge. It would be easier if I could just drop them off at the sitters and enjoy a day at the spa...instead I embrace my spa days as finally being able to take a shower after not having one for 4 days! I think Parenting has a lot to do with contentment and attitude. Sometimes you have to roll with the punches. There is never a day that goes by that I don't thank the Lord for my children...I know of many families that cannot have children...so it is humbling and an honor that God has blessed us with 2 perfect children to care for. We are blessed and I want my Children to feel like blessings...
When my children are grown up I want them to have fond memories of their childhood...I want them to have compassion and respect for others, a deep happiness and love of live. Mostly I want them to have contentment...without contentment you have nothing...with it you have everything...and no one can take it away from you!* I have so many more thought and opinions on parenting...it is something I am super passionate about and could on and on about...these are some just some of the random thought running through my mind right now...
3 comments:
(i guess you're my daughter after all! ha!)
very well said, shas. i love what you wrote. and, yes, it all boils down to contentment. all too often people are too worried about the other person or have 'the grass is greener on the other side' attitude and are too worried about keeping up with others and are missing out and embracing whats right in front of them. it's sad that many young people haven't been taught the value of contentment these days as well as valuing the importance of these little people in their lives. i firmly believe it does NOT take a village to raise your children. but it does take dedication.
obviously your parenting style is working wonderfully, so i say, 'keep on doing what you're doing!' and to all those naysayers you've had talking behind your back and complaining to others i would like to tell them to mind their own damn business and take care of their own families for a change. ha!
-your opinionated mother
ha, i think its pretty sad that you irritated that "someone" to the point that they even had to email this blog post to another person. good grief. don't you just want to tell her to grow up and mind her own business. we all know shes a busy body and is looking to cause more problems (imaginary or otherwise), and i'm sure this wont be the last of it. its sad that she hasn't found contentment in her own life yet. its been my experience in life, shas, that those that act this way toward others have many jealousy issues as well as contentment issues. you and jon are doing absolutely nothing wrong and its sad that she has such issues with you.
i hope she reads this, because i'd really like to tell her to pay attention to whats going on in her own home rather than bothering herself with whats going on in yours. it sounds like she is just unsure of her own parenting and having a tough time of it - and wondering how you do it. but i doubt thats the case since theres been so much talk and conflict behind your back. if she needs help and advice, i wish she'd just ask rather than go about it in these sneaky little dirty ways. she must realize that you are on to her and have been for quite some time - you hear things (and have been told things from others about her as well) - she's not fooling you or anyone else. i guess theres not much to do except let it go and PRAY for her and pray she soon "gets it" and finds that contentment she seems to be seeking.
keep up the good work shas & jon - we're proud of you and those two darling babies of yours!!
keep on doin' what you're doin' -
mom
haha - they're at it again? at this very moment? ohhh, sad. c'mon people, get a grip....
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